Tips to Create a Joyful Holiday Remembrance or Legacy of Your Loved Ones!

The Holiday Spirit

The Holiday Season can be filled with joy and excitement. It also can be a time of heartfelt sadness and loss. As the Helen Keller heartfelt quote, on the left, reads: “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”

Missing Loved Ones

During the Holiday Season missing your loved ones who have passed recently or years ago, remain a stressful change during a holiday or a family celebration.

Advise About Change

John De Berry, a former grief counselor and consultant who was the Bereavement Coordinator of Palliative Care and Home Hospice Program at Chicago’s Northwestern Memorial Hospital says, “Change is inevitable; growth is optional. We need to acknowledge our unique differences and understand that we may not act as we did when everyone in the family was together. Changes can create growth if we focus on the positive in people. For the first set of holidays, you can blend aspects of the past with the present.”

Brain Color Tips to help you create a remembrance or legacy that can be comforting and ease the sadness and loss of your loved ones:

  • A Yellow Brainer could establish a remembrance tradition with a special prayer or by serving a loved one’s favorite food at a celebration or holiday meal.
  • A Blue Brainer may enjoy sharing stories about a loved one or singing his or her favorite holiday songs, and or baking special foods, especially with the adults and children who did not know the person.
  • A Green Brainer may want to observe a private memorial to honor a loved one by visiting the cemetery or lighting a remembrance candle.
  • An Orange Brainer might like to celebrate a loved one’s life and memory by releasing balloons that contain a “love” message or engaging in a loved one’s favorite sport or hobby.

A Hitching Post

Expectations, change, and stress often keep us from enjoying the moment and moving on to celebrate our lives in a new way.
Author Victor Parachin says, “We can use the past as a guidepost or a hitching post.”

Final Thought

I have always baked my maternal grandmothe’s butter cookes cut in the shape of driedles, menorahs, and Stars of Dvid, as a rememberance of my “Mimi”! I love the 1975 picture of her baking cookies with our eldest son Joshua.

Joyful Tips
I hope the 4 Brain Color Tips will help you create a Joyful Holiday Remembrance or Legacy for your loved ones! Enjoy!





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  1. Carol Bates on December 14, 2022 at 7:44 pm

    Nice article, Sheila . I cherish the memories of Christmas with family, here and gone. I miss Hanukkah with Donna and the girls but glad they are all enjoying life.

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