My Mother’s Long Spoon Wisdom for Solving Problems In Your Relationships!

Problems With Relationships

Have you ever had a problem with someone, which caused discomfort in your relationship and made you wanted to keep your distance from that individual? I think we all have experienced that type of situation.

My Mother’s Wisdom and Metaphor

My mother created her own axiom for dealing with those circumstances. She would simply say, “I am feeding (him, her or them) with a long spoon.”

I love the metaphor. My mother’s sage advice worked well for her and has always worked for me in my personal and professional relationships. When family members and friends use my mother’s wisdom, they give her attribution for her adage and tell me, “I used your mother’s long spoon advice.”

The Brain Colors and My Mother ‘s Long Spoon” Wisdom

Each Brain Color Personality can use “My Mother ‘s Long Spoon” wisdom in a variety of situations:

Yellow Brainers use “My Mother’s Long Spoon” wisdom when they know people have been disrespectful or irresponsible.

Blue Brainers use “My Mother’s Long Spoon” wisdom when they feel someone has been unkind or selfish.

Green Brainers use “My Mother’s Long Spoon” wisdom when they think someone is creating chaos/drama and being unfair.

Orange Brainers use “My Mother’s Long Spoon” wisdom when they believe that someone is treating them like a child and continually making negative comments.

My Mother’s Brain Color Personality

My mother was Neon Yellow. She could have won the Mrs. Propriety Award. She always was a Lady, who knew how to feed people with a long spoon until the appropriate time to address the issues in the relationship. If there was a situation that could not be resolved and she had to interact with that individual, she did it with decorum and her long spoon!

Final Thought

I trust “My Mother’s Long Spoon” wisdom and advice will be helpful to you when you experience discomfort in any of your relationships.


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  1. Suzette Elmzen on June 16, 2023 at 7:49 am

    I love your sweet Morhers Long Spoon Advice and thank you for sharing

    • sheila on June 19, 2023 at 4:39 pm

      Dear Suzette, you are most welcome!

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