George Bernard Shaw said, “When our relatives are at home, we have to think of all their good points or it would be impossible to endure them.”
When your relatives come home for a holiday or a special occasion, do you think they resemble the people on a Disney World dream vacation brochure or the “most wanted” listings at your local post office?
If your holiday celebrations are sometimes problematic because of “colorful” characters and their personality differences, the What Color Is Your Brain? approach will help you enjoy your relatives and celebrations with less stress, the appropriate gifts, and more time for fun.
Discovering your Brain Color personality is fascinating and fun. Each Brain Color has its own “praiseworthy” gifts. Recognizing and respecting the strengths of all four brain colors will make your holidays, and life in general, more harmonious. Everyone is a blend of the four Brain Colors. However, for most people, one of the personalities fits them best.
The following is a brief basic and foundation for the four different Brain Color personalities .
“Yellow Brainers” are disciplined and value readiness. They are prepared, committed and exacting about their responsibilities; and are esteemed when completing tasks on time and knowing what is expected of them.
“Blue Brainers” are dreamers who often give too much of themselves, are inspirational, communicative and interactive. They are esteemed when working in an environment that promotes harmony and imagination.
“Green Brainers” value knowledge and need privacy; and make decisions only when they have gathered and analyzed all pertinent information. ” They are esteemed when working in an environment that promotes efficiency and fairness.
“Orange Brainers” dazzle others with their energy, competitiveness and resourcefulness. They are esteemed when they do not have to follow someone else’s directions, but instead have a sense of freedom.
Once you understand each personality type, including your own, you will:
1. Appreciate Cousin Marilyn’s Yellow Brain ability to purchase the perfect gift for each member of your family.
2. Find it easy to buy a gift for Aunt Sylvia, a Blue Brainer, who loves collecting family photos.
3. Understand that Uncle Al, a Green Brainer, is not the curmudgeon you thought he was.
4. Know why your Orange Brainer friend, JB, will be thrilled with a pictorial book about hiking the Himalayas.
The holiday and celebration tips that follow will help you de-stress and put the holiday spirit back in your celebrations.
Yellow Brainers: Joys- Customs, Stressors- Last-minute changes, Shopping Style- Makes list, Holiday Quotes-“Tradition! Tradition!”, Gatherings-Timely, Gifts- Practical: watches, sweaters & calendar, Books-History, bestsellers & religion.
Blue Brainers: Joys=Family & friends, Stressors=No offers to help, Shopping Style=Makes gifts, Holiday Quotes-“I just called to say I love you”, Gatherings=Relaxed, Gifts= Romantic: Picture frames, candles & perfume, Books= Biography, self-help & inspirational.
Green Brainers: Joys=Alone time, Stressors= Hustle & bustle, Shopping Style=Shops online, Holiday Quotes=“Bah, humbug”, Gatherings =Quiet, Gifts=Technical: gadgets, computers, electronic devices, lessons, Books=Technology, mysteries & crossword puzzles.
Orange Brainers: Joys= Entertainment, Stressors=Obligations, Shopping Style=Last minute, Holiday Quotes= “Let’s party”, Gatherings=Noisy, Gifts=-Fun: Sports equipment, tools, tickets to a sporting event or getaway trip, Books=Sports, “how to…” & adventures.
Have fun implementing the previous holiday and celebration tips, and you will also receive the following bonus gifts:
1. Assist a Yellow Brainer and help him plan the next family get-together. You will win a “respectable” 1st place ribbon.
2. Score points with a Blue Brainer. Give her a “love gift” when it is not a holiday or special occasion.
3. Give the Green Brainers a little extra solitude and they will not mumble “Bah, humbug!” at your celebration.
4. Delight your Orange Brainer with a “How did you do it?” or “It’s exactly what I wanted!” gift.
During the holidays, change and stress can be significant. Missing a loved one who has passed away can be a stressful change during the holiday season or a family celebration. John De Berry, a grief counselor and consultant who was the Bereavement Coordinator of Palliative Care and Home Hospice Program at Chicago’s Northwestern Memorial Hospital says, “Change is inevitable; growth is optional. We need to acknowledge our unique differences and understand that we may not act as we did when everyone in the family was together.
Changes can create growth if we focus on the positive in people. For the first set of holidays, you can blend aspects of the past with the present.” Creating a remembrance or legacy can be comforting and ease stress:
1. A Yellow Brainer could establish a remembrance tradition with a special prayer or by serving a loved one’s favorite food at a celebration or holiday meal.
2. A Blue Brainer may enjoy sharing stories about a loved one or singing his or her favorite holiday songs, especially with the adults and children who did not know the person.
3. A Green Brainer may want to observe a private memorial to honor a loved one by visiting the cemetery or lighting a remembrance candle.
4. An Orange Brainer might like to celebrate a loved one’s life and memory by releasing balloons that contain a “love” message or engaging in a loved one’s favorite sport or hobby.
Author Victor Parachin says, “We can use the past as a guide post or a hitching post.” Expectations, change, and stress often keep us from enjoying the moment and moving on to celebrate our lives in a new way.
Sheila N. Glazov ~ Author ~ Speaker ~ Educator ~ Personality Type Expert
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