October is Bully Prevention and National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to think about the adults and children who have experienced Bully Behavior, and how the 4 Brain Color Personalities, recognize Bully Behavior, how each one feels bullied, and how they courageously deal with and redirect Bully Behavior.
Below are tips and examples of the 4 people who can be involved in Bully Behavior.
When an individual feels that their Brain Color Personality feels bright and comfortable, they feel capable and esteemed. When an individual's feels that their Brain Color Personality feels Shadowed and uncomfortable, they feel vulnerable and misunderstood. Another term to describe their behavior is “Wet Paint”: "Do not touch.", "Let me dry.", "Give me time."
They might also behave like the Meevillain who is character in Princess Shayna's Invisible Visible Gift, which is children's book version of What Color Is Your Brain?®. I created Meevillain as the antagonist who represents Shadowed behavior in the fairy tale. When people demonstrate negative Bully Behavior they are only think about themselves and how someone else hurt, scared, or misunderstood Me. Then they do evil, harmful, or injurious things to other adults or children. Finally, they become a villain to themselves and others. No matter which of the four behavior they exhibit, they transform themselves into a Meevillain.
Tip #1 - The 4 People Involved In Bully (Shadowed/"Wet Paint") Behavior
1. The Bully: The aggressor who teases and torments another individual.
2. The Bullied: The child or adult who is harassed at school, work, home, or in their community.
3. The Baiter: The Bully’s “Yes Person” who provokes a reaction for the bully.
4. The Bystander: The individual who does not get involved out of fear or indifference.
It is essential for adults or children recognize the 4 Brain Color Bully Behaviors to communicate what the Bully said or how the Bully acted when they ask a trustworthy professional, family member, or friend for help to prevent continued Bully Behavior.
Tip #2 - How To Recognize The 4 Brain Color Bullies
Yellow Brain Bullies: Must demonstrate they are in control of a situation or relationship.
Blue Brain Bullies: Engage in passive aggressive behavior to make other people feel badly.
Green Brain Bullies: Intimidate others with their sense of superior intelligence.
Orange Brain Bullies: Physically dominate others with their size and/or strength.
To receive the appropriate assistance to stop harmful Bully Behavior, it is critical for an adult or child to be aware of their feelings, specifically know what to communicate, and how they felt when they were bullied.
Tip #3 - How Each Brain Colors Feel Bullied
Yellow Brainers: Feel bullied and overwhelmed when they are forced to make a decision without time to prepare.
Blue Brainers: Feel bullied and intimidated if someone makes fun of their efforts to comfort and encourage others.
Green Brainers: Think they are being bullied and treated as an outcast when others label them as a “nerd” or “geek”.
Orange Brainers: Feel bullied and restricted when someone uses their authority to make them abide by rigid or unreasonable rules.
Once an adult or child is able to recognize Bully Behavior, become aware of their feelings, and communicate their experience(s) to individuals who can help them, they will be fell more courageous and capable to deal with and redirect Bully Behavior.
Tip #4 - How Each Brain Colors Deals With And Redirects Bully Behavior
Yellow Brainers: Think or say, “You are not always right, and you will not make me feel that I am wrong and have no value.”
Blue Brainers: Think or say, “You’ve hurt my feelings, and you will not make me feel badly about myself and/or my ideas.”
Green Brainers: Think or say, “You think you are more intelligent than I am, but I am smart about the things I know about in my life.”
Orange Brainers: Think or say, “You are the authority, but I am also capable, and you will not make me feel inferior to you.”
These Brain Color tips and examples are meant to offer you an new and different awareness about understanding, dealing with, and preventing Bully Behavior in your workplace, home, school, and/or community. I trust they will be helpful to you and you will share them with others, or you will encourage an adult and/or child you know to courageously seek the help and safety they need to prevent Bully Behavior and Domestic Violence.
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